Internet supports mother who uses son’s savings to repair stepson’s car

Almost every parent can agree that parenting teenagers can be stressful at times. Then you can expect some regular tantrums and misunderstandings. But every now and then things can escalate and cause fights that are harder to manage.

A mom under the username u/Safety-Light3099 recently had a after On reddit how she ended up using her 17-year-old son’s “camp savings” to pay for the damage he caused to his stepbrother’s car in the first place. The parent posted the story to the AITA (“Am I the A**hole”) subreddit less than a day ago, with the caption: “AITA for using my son’s savings to leave his stepbrother’s car to repair?” Since then, the post has managed to generate a total of 12,500 upvotes and 1,200 comments.

In the post, the original poster (OP) described how it all started when her 19-year-old stepson received a car from his birth mother as a gift. “She and her family are doing well and unlike me, they could afford to buy a car,” she wrote.

Mother arguing with teenage son
An image of a mother arguing with her teenage son. A Reddit post recently went viral after a mother shared a story about how she used her 17-year-old son’s “camp savings” to pay for the damage he caused to his stepbrother’s car in the first place.

The stepmother was still “lucky” that her stepson received such a generous gift, but her 17-year-old biological son had the opposite reaction. “He complains about how unfair it is for my husband to let his ex give their son a car, but not him,” she explained.

She knew her son’s complaints were ‘unreasonable’, especially after he suggested a certain solution: ‘My son wanted to drive as a ‘compromise, otherwise we had to get rid of it’.

The mother then described how she had tried to explain to her son that the car belongs to his stepbrother and that he should not be expected to drive it unless he has given permission. Still, the son continued to issue ultimatums to the parents, demanding that the car be shared with him or else “the car goes.”

Things took a different turn when the father confronted the 17-year-old son, who later damaged his stepbrother’s car. †[…H]I threw paint on it, ruined the lights and completely damaged the front,” the mother wrote.

The OP described that when the stepson saw the damaged car in the morning, he was “unlucky” and her husband was “beyond furious” after seeing the footage captured by the driveway security camera. And when the father tried to talk to the 17-year-old son, all the teenager did was “smile and give him the middle finger.”

At that point, the mother decided to “take all his savings for this summer to pay for the damage”. And when the son found out, “he went out on everyone in the house,” accused the mother of theft, and “tried [her] husband for ‘sex.'”

The 17-year-old also told his stepbrother that he warned him and that’s why he wasn’t to blame.

“He also said it was my fault that I didn’t get a car for him or that my husband gave him a car to avoid favoritism and conflict,” the mother wrote.

By the end of the post, the mother had expressed concern about the son’s “spending” [the] Most of his time in his room refuses to come out or eat.” She explained that she was “concerned” because her son had previously “been hospitalized” due to low blood pressure caused by not eating .

Since the post was shared, the moderators have locked the comment thread “due to too many rule violations”, meaning no new comments can be posted. But before that, more than a thousand Reddit users managed to leave comments below the post, most of which included words of support in favor of the mom’s decision.

†[…Y]you handled that pretty well. Your son is almost grown, he should behave like this. He had no remorse, and he should be thankful your stepson didn’t press charges,” one user wrote.

“NTA” [Not the a**hole] not at all. She has done an amazing job as a stepmother to her son and an amazing job raising her biological son,” said another commenter.

More than a few users suggested that the mother’s stepson should press charges:
“Stepson should file a report and this kid should pay him for the depreciation of the damage,” said one commenter.

“Step brother has to file a full return,” wrote another user.

Multiple commentators also pointed out that the 17-year-old son “needs therapy”.

“He has serious problems and as he gets older if he doesn’t get this right out of his head, he’s going to have a life of criminality,” explains one user.

“His behavior has gone off the rails. I would put him in therapy as soon as possible,” added another.

“The boy also seems to have some intense behavioral problems – he may need to get therapy or at least talk to a specialist as this behavior seems very extreme for a boy who is already 17,” agreed another commenter.

According to a study conducted by the University of Massachusetts, 20 percent of U.S. households have at least one stepparent, and nearly 30 percent “have stepparenthood between parents or adult children.”

In addition, researchers at the University of Utah analyzed data from more than 400,000 children to compare the mortality of children whose parents did not remarry after their previous partner died, with stepchildren whose parents remarried, resulting in blended families. The study reported no significant difference between the two and concluded that stepchildren are not disadvantaged.

GinaMarie Guarino, licensed mental health counselor, told VeryWellFamily that “resistance from stepparents and stepchildren can be expected, which is challenging for everyone involved.”

“It’s about taking the cultures of two separate families and merging them into a new family dynamic,” she added.

This wouldn’t be the first time someone had decided to take to the internet to share their parenting concerns. news week previously reported on how one mother expressed frustration at her toddler is regularly forced to cuddle and kiss. news week also covered another viral post on Reddit about a mom who refused to allow her children to visit their dying father in another country. And earlier this year, a post on Mumsnet went viral after a mom shared she felt like she… “bullied” by her teenage stepdaughter

news week has contacted u/Safety-Light3099 for comment.

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